I’m into the wonders of the world and the truth of reality. There’s no veil over my eyes even though I can never ‘know’ everything in this lifetime, but I understand and see plenty. By the way this is a personal post of reflection.
I’ve learned that it’s impossible to please everyone and that you never will. You have to allow others to be responsible for their own feelings and karma, good and bad. You have to learn to Master Self. No one can make you happy, if you can’t make yourself happy therefore the people you’re aiming to please will never truly be happy until they are happy from within. A wise one once said:
Once you know yourself then you will know everyone in the universe
So with that being said…. I’m back to being making sure that I’m happy first before I seek to comfort someone else in their unhappiness or happiness. It’s a must that you don’t drain yourself to assist someone else especially if they aren’t helping themselves.
There’s a reason why there is a male for every female and vice versa. Have you ever thought about getting married, being loved, and loving someone else ? If you’re a normal individual you have thought about who your soulmate is at least once.
Why is it so hard to date, court, and get married nowadays if there’s somebody for everybody? Dating is a vicious cycle.
Men are supposedly the predators, yet you have more women taking that position today throwing the chemical balance off between men and women.
More men are becoming use to flocking females, thots, whores, hoes, whatever you call them because women are allowing too much inconsistency, red flags, and chilling in their life.
Knowing your worth is worth your while and can help you figure out major decisions in your life. Don’t know your self worth, spend time with yourself and figure it out.
Understand the Process and Term
. Dating
a. to be a boyfriend or girlfriend of (someone of the opposite sex)
b. to accompany (a member of the opposite sex) on a date
Dating consist of social activities between two people with the aim of assessing each others compatibility/suitably to be partners in an intimate relationship, and or spouse. Dating is a social relationship, casual and fun. So What are the protocol, rules and practices to dating ? It’s the idea of searching for your soulmate, so it applies differently according to your location in the world, sex, and interest.
.Courting
a. to seek another’s love; woo.
b. to attempt to gain (applause, favor, a decision, etc.).
Dating VS. Courting
Is there really a difference between the two ? Well you know my favorite thing is to dissect, so let’s figure it out.
Courting is getting to know someone with the intentions of building a lasting long term monogamy or polyamory relationship. (It’s called OFFICIALLY being in a relationship with actual goals and plans).
Dating is couple planned activities, scouting options that are available to you, with intentions of becoming romantically involved. (otherwise known as practice) it’s figuring things out, figuring out what you want and what you don’t want.
In my opinion yes, it’s levels to relationships., dating isn’t easy and courting is no easier but between the two dating is a lot easier than courting someone.
The only difference between courting is that you have made the conscious decision of investing in something that you’re interested in, care about, and find worth while that could turn into something worth living for.
Stages of Dating
Attraction/ Choosing
Uncertainty/ Deciding if the person is right for you
Becoming exclusive (mutual decision to become committed)
Last but not least Courting
My experience with dating these past four years has been crazy but well worth getting to know me as a woman.
This topic has been well researched and lived to back up the details in this post. I’ve become confident with what I want as a woman, comfortable with choosing my man after he has chosen me.
It’s not about being thirsty for someone but its about being appreciated and shown interest in who you truly are, while giving back what’s given to you.
Dating is fun but courting should always be your goal. From personal experience:Never settle for less than what you want, deserve, and seek, don’t waste your time.
If you’re human, you have this thing you go through called “human error”, and while this is commonly applied to industries, we’re going to use it in the human communication industry of relationships.
Family is a global business industry. I don’t think I have to explain it to you because I know you know your history and the heritage of humanity especially before industrialism. Humans are natural resources who can seemingly do anything, just about. That main factor that made slavery so popular in the US and abroad is humans ability to regenerate even if not out of love.
What sparked this convo
My cousin shared these thoughts on Facebook:
Look 👀 up the “” words because we are about to get technical:< em>What is a relationship❓
A “relationship” is a “ship” 🚢 that stores 🏠 your “Relations”. Two people that have a relationship isn’t guaranteed to be in love 😍. You can connect by attraction, goals, or aspirations or even security. Sometimes two people connect for a short term that was simply never meant to last but only for you to receive the lesson that life has on your path to teach you. If a “relationship” makes you have these type of thoughts organically then follow your intuition. Don’t anchor⚓️ down because a ship 🚢 should always “sail”.
What is the most common mistake that people make in one ☝🏾❓
The mistake most people make is not being logical about the relationships they build or openly honest with their partner. Sometimes when you grow, it’s nothing personal when someone outgrows someone, it’s life. Be happy 😊 even when you’re growing through hell, discomfort, confusion or chaos, because when you reflect you’ll understand why things are never a coincidence. Next time be aware that your soul is sailing ⛵️ and you’re on a wave 🌊 riding to your next destination. Ask yourself: What is the meaning of this? Why is this person here ? Why am I here? Then go from there.
Yesterday at Demera Ethiopian Restaurant, I hosted 8 guest to celebrate the New Year (my new year). The benefits of dining with others is the centering of food and conversation which helps to upwardly build relations.
In today’s community or world we don’t eat with our family a lot. We’re typically always on the go, with our extended family from work, or maybe with our friends. Whatever the situation, we aren’t spending two hours a day communally eating.
Eating together and having a quintessential human experience is communal dining. You get to catch up with your peers, family, or partners. It’s a great way to learn from one another and inspire new cuisines, cultural practices, and share information.
Well I’m gone get straight to the point with you. I’m improving my life and culture, so how I bond with humans in my life is utterly important to me. It’s not about one individual but about the unit as a collective. It’s about the whole experience and learning how not to be selfish or kill the mood of others, being aware of how you’re energy (Inner G) impacts others.
It’s 3 days into the New Year, counting from April 1, because it’s harvesting season where things are being planted. I shared my solar return (birthday) April 1, too.
It’s a great season to detoxify, rejuvenate, and regenerate your energy to create for the summer.
King Spa
For 24 hours, on the first day of the “New Year”, I spent the day cleansing at King Spa:
These are the 5 most wealthiest things to me in the world. The reason I know this to be true is because if everything else fails, all you have is you. If your health is declining because you are failing to keep a balance in your life, you can become toxic. Just think about if you never took the time to cleanse your self ? And most of us can’t reach our back, so I know someone out here is walking around with a dirty back.
Nonetheless, we still have to find time to rid our body of the toxins we inject or allow others to inject into ourselves, aid our digestive system, as well as our immune system or what we pick up in our environment daily. Our body is constantly trying to cleanse itself, so we have to aid it in its process.
I really enjoyed the refreshing rebirth of the year. Take care of your self.
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