The Importance of the Opposite Sex and Dating


There’s a reason why there is a male for every female and vice versa. Have you ever thought about getting married, being loved, and loving someone else ? If you’re a normal individual you have thought about who your soulmate is at least once.

Why is it so hard to date, court, and get married nowadays if there’s somebody for everybody? Dating is a vicious cycle.

Men are supposedly the predators, yet you have more women taking that position today throwing the chemical balance off between men and women.

More men are becoming use to flocking females, thots, whores, hoes, whatever you call them because women are allowing too much inconsistency, red flags, and chilling in their life.

Knowing your worth is worth your while and can help you figure out major decisions in your life. Don’t know your self worth, spend time with yourself and figure it out.

Understand the Process and Term

. Dating

a. to be a boyfriend or girlfriend of (someone of the opposite sex)

b. to accompany (a member of the opposite sex) on a date

Dating consist of social activities between two people with the aim of assessing each others compatibility/suitably to be partners in an intimate relationship, and or spouse. Dating is a social relationship, casual and fun. So What are the protocol, rules and practices to dating ? It’s the idea of searching for your soulmate, so it applies differently according to your location in the world, sex, and interest.

.Courting

a. to seek another’s love; woo.

b. to attempt to gain (applause, favor, a decision, etc.).

Dating VS. Courting

Is there really a difference between the two ? Well you know my favorite thing is to dissect, so let’s figure it out.

Courting is getting to know someone with the intentions of building a lasting long term monogamy or polyamory relationship. (It’s called OFFICIALLY being in a relationship with actual goals and plans).

Dating is couple planned activities, scouting options that are available to you, with intentions of becoming romantically involved. (otherwise known as practice) it’s figuring things out, figuring out what you want and what you don’t want.

In my opinion yes, it’s levels to relationships., dating isn’t easy and courting is no easier but between the two dating is a lot easier than courting someone.

The only difference between courting is that you have made the conscious decision of investing in something that you’re interested in, care about, and find worth while that could turn into something worth living for.

Stages of Dating

Attraction/ Choosing
Uncertainty/ Deciding if the person is right for you

Becoming exclusive (mutual decision to become committed)

Last but not least Courting

My experience with dating these past four years has been crazy but well worth getting to know me as a woman.

This topic has been well researched and lived to back up the details in this post. I’ve become confident with what I want as a woman, comfortable with choosing my man after he has chosen me.

It’s not about being thirsty for someone but its about being appreciated and shown interest in who you truly are, while giving back what’s given to you.

Dating is fun but courting should always be your goal. From personal experience:Never settle for less than what you want, deserve, and seek, don’t waste your time.

Lets get back to basics.

@JeCaryous Presents 🎁 “Set It Off” Starring @sosobrat @demimckinney @kylapratt @letoyaluckett at the @ariecrown

What an amazing 😉 play 🎟🎭 ‼️ Je’Caryous prolifically pulled this together. The all-star cast ⭐️ fit the roles, and the story twist….well you’ll just have to catch the last two shows tomorrow to see what’s up.
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sed the very beginning when Stony's brother was killed and probably a bit more. It would have been nice to let Stony get away 🚶🏿‍♀️ the way she did in the movie, rather than the twist. I wasn't really feeling it but it wasn't outrageously altered, It was 👌🏾.

I will say that there is a lot of work that still needs to be done. After thinking 🤔 about it , they could have invested more into the props and marketing.

My favorite part of the play was the reenactment of Cleo's infamous run 🏃🏾‍♀️ in with the police 🚔. Yo, they had the fucking blue 🚙 car with the hydraulics G.

They sung happy 😊 Birthday 🎂 to Da Brat, who's birthday is April 14. Chicago go get your tickets and support the arts 🎭.

Updated April 15, 8:41 AM.

The “Business” of Humanity: Humans and Relationships

If you’re human, you have this thing you go through called “human error”, and while this is commonly applied to industries, we’re going to use it in the human communication industry of relationships.

Family is a global business industry. I don’t think I have to explain it to you because I know you know your history and the heritage of humanity especially before industrialism. Humans are natural resources who can seemingly do anything, just about. That main factor that made slavery so popular in the US and abroad is humans ability to regenerate even if not out of love.

What sparked this convo

My cousin shared these thoughts on Facebook:

Look 👀 up the “” words because we are about to get technical:< em>What is a relationship❓

A “relationship” is a “ship” 🚢 that stores 🏠 your “Relations”. Two people that have a relationship isn’t guaranteed to be in love 😍. You can connect by attraction, goals, or aspirations or even security. Sometimes two people connect for a short term that was simply never meant to last but only for you to receive the lesson that life has on your path to teach you. If a “relationship” makes you have these type of thoughts organically then follow your intuition. Don’t anchor⚓️ down because a ship 🚢 should always “sail”.

What is the most common mistake that people make in one ☝🏾❓

The mistake most people make is not being logical about the relationships they build or openly honest with their partner. Sometimes when you grow, it’s nothing personal when someone outgrows someone, it’s life. Be happy 😊 even when you’re growing through hell, discomfort, confusion or chaos, because when you reflect you’ll understand why things are never a coincidence. Next time be aware that your soul is sailing ⛵️ and you’re on a wave 🌊 riding to your next destination. Ask yourself: What is the meaning of this? Why is this person here ? Why am I here? Then go from there.

Communal Eating and the Importance of Sharing a Meal and Conversation

Yesterday at Demera Ethiopian Restaurant, I hosted 8 guest to celebrate the New Year (my new year).  The benefits of dining with others is the centering of food and conversation which helps to upwardly build relations.

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In today’s community or world we don’t eat with our family a lot. We’re typically always on the go, with our extended family from work, or maybe with our friends. Whatever the situation, we aren’t spending two hours a day communally eating.

What is Communal Eating:

Communal Eating As A Vaccination Against Loneliness And Social Isolation

Eating together and having a quintessential human experience is communal dining. You get to catch up with your peers, family, or partners. It’s a great way to learn from one another and inspire new cuisines, cultural practices, and share information.

Conarga released news about a national survey that they performed, which found that 40 percent of American families eat dinner together at three or fewer times a week. I’m not for sure when the news release was published but I’ll guess that it was around 2003. Do you think that number has increased or decreased?

Well I’m gone get straight to the point with you. I’m improving my life and culture, so how I bond with humans in my life is utterly important to me. It’s not about one individual but about the unit as a collective. It’s about the whole experience and learning how not to be selfish or kill the mood of others, being aware of how you’re energy (Inner G) impacts others.

Here’s my Why

Inspired by GOODNET, gateway to doing good

9 Scientifically Proven Reasons to Eat Dinner as a Family 

  1. Betters Relationships
  2. Leads to Healthier Food Choices
  3. Can Lead to Better Grades or Work Experience
  4. A Chance to Explore New Foods
  5. Lead to Greater Happiness
  6. Homemade Meals Promotes Portion Control including Public Communal Dining
  7. Equals healthy Children and Adults
  8. Relieves Stress
  9. Saves Money

5 most Wealthiest Things in the World

Happy Tuesday!

It’s 3 days into the New Year, counting from April 1, because it’s harvesting season where things are being planted. I shared my solar return (birthday) April 1, too.

It’s a great season to detoxify, rejuvenate, and regenerate your energy to create for the summer.

 

King Spa

 

For 24 hours, on the first day of the “New Year”, I spent the day cleansing at King Spa:

  1. Aura 

  2. Mind 

  3. Body 

  4. Soul 

  5. Spirit 

These are the 5 most wealthiest things to me in the world. The reason I know this to be true is because if everything else fails, all you have is you. If your health is declining because you are failing to keep a balance in your life, you can become toxic. Just think about if you never took the time to cleanse your self ?  And most of us can’t reach our back, so I know someone out here is walking around with a dirty back.

Nonetheless, we still have to find time to rid our body of the toxins we inject or allow others to inject into ourselves, aid our digestive system, as well as our immune system or what we pick up in our environment daily. Our body is constantly trying to cleanse itself, so we have to aid it in its process.

I really enjoyed the refreshing rebirth of the year. Take care of your self.

 

Peace. 

5 Women You Should Know

My goal for this story is to share the legacy of 5 amazing women in the Africa Diaspora that you may or may not know. In my spirit, I felt that these ladies needed to be heard and remembered for their works. In many cases we always remember those who are well known and we seem to forget about those who did the work but aren’t credited enough. Here are my five women you should know:

 

Vivian G
Vivian G. Harhs’s picture courtesy of the Chicago Public Library.

Vivian G. Harsh

Born Vivian Gordon Harsh in Chicago on May 27, 1890; she was the first African American librarian in the Chicago Public School system, the first Black professional librarian in Chicago, and a significant contributor to Chicago’s Black Renaissance. Vivian began her 60-year-librarian-career in 1909 as a Junior Clerk at the Chicago Public Library, she received her B.A. from Simmons College in Boston, and she took advanced courses at the University of Chicago Graduate School of Library Science. While working with Carter G. Woodson she recognized the need for librarian services on the South Side of Chicago, in the heart of the African American community. Vivian G. Harsh Research Collection of Afro-American History and Literature is housed at Carter G. Woodson Library. She is remembered as “The historian who never wrote”.

 

 

Hazel J
Hazel M. Johnson’s picture courtesy of Surviving to Thriving Summit Dot Org

 

Hazel Johnson

Hazel Johnson is known as the “Mother of Environmental Justice Movement”, and a resident of Atlgeld Gardens Public Housing.  She founded “People for Community Recovery” in 1979, 10-years after her husband died of lung cancer in 1969, which was the cause for her four decades of activism. She documented illnesses and physical ailments that frequently punished her neighbors. She linked them to polluted air, water, and contaminated soil. She also played a role in Barack Obama’s starting career in public service. The Gardens is where he got his start in politics as a Community Organizer in the 1980s.  As reported by The Washington Post, Cheryl Johnson, Hazel’s daughter, “was a nursing student when Obama arrived, and she remembers watching him and her mother strategizing many nights at her kitchen table. They made an odd pair, she said: “He was in his 20s. She was in her 40s. But they learned off each other.””  She received a gold medal from George Bush and was recognized by Bill Clinton for her environmental work in Chicago.

 

Amanda B
Amanda Berry Lewis’s picture courtesy of William Hull.

Amanda Berry Lewis

Amanda Berry Lewis was born into slavery January 23, 1837 in Long Green, Maryland. Her father worked to buy her family’s freedom. She was a Methodist Holiness Evangelist and Missionary, who traveled to Great Britain, India, and Africa to share her gifts. After her services overseas, she returned to the states where she founded the Amanda Smith Orphanage and Industrial Home for Abandoned and Destitute Colored Children in Harvey, Illinois in 1899. She couldn’t support the school sufficiently, so she left and moved to Florida which became her final resting place.

 

Dr Maria Mootry
 Dr. Maria K. Mootry’s picture courtesy of her son, Johnathan P. Ikerionwu of Springfield.

Dr. Maria K. Mootry

Maria Mootry was born January 3, 1944 in Nashville, Tennessee. She graduated from Farragut High School in Chicago, Illinois at 16-years-old. She went on to receive her BA from Roosevelt University, Masters at the University of Wisconsin, and Doctorate from Northwestern University in Evanston, Illinois.  She performed research in bioethics regarding race. She was a Professor of English and an unknown leader in African American history who was an Co-Editor of Gwendolyn Brooks “A Life Distilled”. Mootry taught at Southern Illinois of Carbondale, Grinnell College, and University of Illinois at Springfield. In 1980, she co-Founded the Poetry Factory in Carbondale, Illinois which encouraged others to write and publish. Much of her work isn’t known but its been floating around making a difference. You can visit Dr. Maria K. Mootry’s works at Carter G. Woodson Library, Maria Mootry Papers, and her website www.MariaMootry.com .

 

Mary Tate
Mother Mary Lena Lewis Tate’s picture courtesy of Church of the Living God, the Pillar, and Ground of Truth, Inc.

Mother Mary Lena Lewis Tate

Mother Mary Lewis Tate was the first known woman to organize an internationally recognized church and to elevate to Bishop ranking. She was born Mary Lena Street January 5, 1871 in Vanleer, Tennessee.  She spent most of her life in the rural south where she had little opportunity to be educated. She established the Church of the Living God, the Pillar, and Ground of Truth, Inc. in 1903. Tate’s Apostle service extended far beyond religion into the heart of the people and the system of inalienable rights and freedoms. St. Mary Lena Lewis Tate prevailed through the struggle of education, transportation, and communication to carry out her duties. She traveled by walking while using barges, steamships, mule-drawn wagons, broken-down automobiles, and Jim Crow trains. She compassionately surpassed the many barriers of social and religious bias.

 

Cool Fact:

Dr. Maria K. Mootry is the descendant of Mother Mary Lena Lewis Tate. Dr. Mootry is her great granddaughter.  

 

Sources

Mary Lena Lewis Tate: V I S I O N! (n.d.). Retrieved March 25, 2018, from http://www.clgpgt.org/Mother-ML-Tate.html

Dr Maria K Mootry (1944-2000) – Find A Grave… (n.d.). Retrieved March 25, 2018, from https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/6737907/maria-k-mootry

Harsh, Vivian Gordon (1890-1960). (n.d.). Retrieved March 24, 2018, from http://www.blackpast.org/aah/harsh-vivian-gordon-1890-1960

  1. (2016, October 20). Hazel M. Johnson. Retrieved March 24, 2018, from http://www.survivingtothrivingsummit.org/hazel-m-johnson/

Hazel M. Johnson, 1935-2011. (2011, January 16). Retrieved March 25, 2018, from http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2011-01-16/features/ct-met-johnson-obit-20110116_1_cancer-alley-asbestos-removal-environmental-justice

Poetry Factory. (n.d.). Retrieved March 25, 2018, from http://www.mariamootry.com/

Smith, Amanda Berry (1837-1915). (n.d.). Retrieved March 25, 2018, from http://www.blackpast.org/aah/smith-amanda-berry-1837-1915

Wan, W. (2017, January 08). At the housing project where Obama began his career, residents are filled with pride – and frustration. Retrieved March 25, 2018, from https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/at-a-chicago-housing-project-pride-in-obama-but-a-hope-for-more-change/2017/01/08/b6ebba6e-d378-11e6-a783-cd3fa950f2fd_story.html?utm_term=.8921e352b08f

 Women of Honor Celebration w/ @ThorntonTwp

By Briyana Kelly

Acting as a Press Member for Community Relations

For March 3, 2018, Thornton Township celebrated women with honor and has been doing it for 10 years now. Supervisor Frank Zuccarelli spoke of the women saying “Chip in to make the guys look good. Thank You!”, after the warm welcome by Trustee Joyce Washington at St. Archangel Michael.

The Honorees:

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Credit: Shabria Davidson 

Sallie Penman

  • From Education to Politics
  • Village Clerk and has been a resident of South Holland for 30 years.
  • Appointed to South Holland Village in October 2004, elected in 2005, and re-elected in 2009, 2013, and 2017.
  • Director of the Administrators’ Academy in Chicago, IL where she provides Leadership to 1600 administrators of Chicago Public Schools
  • Mother is her inspiration and biggest cheerleader

“As an Educator, I’m inspired by our children. We can’t just complain about things, you have to be the change that you seek.”

 

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 Credit: Shabria Davidson

Rose McGill

  • Wife to Michael McGill of The Dells
  • Very well loved by the constituents
  • Couldn’t make it due to illness and difficulty getting around, currently in rehabilitation.
  • Rose McGill has been a community activist and leader in the South Suburbs of Chicago since the late 60s
  • In 1969, she founded Rose’s House of Charm to help area youth improve their self-esteem and break into acting and modeling.
  • She has been instrumental in helping young people from our community featured in radio and television commercials, magazines, TV sitcoms and movies.
    • Her students have gone on to have successful careers in fields as diverse as academia, finance, medicine, law, fashion design, and business.
  • Janet Rogers, Public Relations Coordinator of South Cook County Mosquito Abatement District, accepted the award on behalf of the family

Janet had this to say about Rose, “Rose was a very energetic, outstanding, outgoing person, and community minded person”

 

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Credit: Shabria Davidson 

Joyce Forbes

  • Married for 51 years to Steve Forbes
  • Lifelong resident of Dolton and Riverdale until 2008
  • Public Service began in 1983 starting School District 148 School Board, served 9 years as am member and president.
  • Brought technology into the Village during Y2K
  • Achieved certification as Master Municipal Clerk

She values “Trustworthiness, honesty, being a good friend. And respecting and being respectful of others. And knowing that everyone is not going to agree with your opinion and but being accommodating. “

 

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Credit: Shabria Davidson 

Vivian Payne

  • Born and raised in Thornton, 24-year resident of Lansing.
  • Prior to being elected Clerk, she was the Executive Assistant to Lansing Mayor Norm Abbott for 8 years and took on the roles of Deputy Clerk, Freedom of Information Officer, Traffic Compliance Administrator and Zoning Board Secretary.
  • In 2010, Vivian initiated Lansing’s first annual Community Clean-Up Day
    • which brings together hundreds of volunteers each spring to pick up trash throughout the Village.
  • In 2016, in conjunction with Community Clean-Up Day, Payne organized Lansing’s first electronic recycling event for residents, where the Village collected on record 642 televisions in under 3 hours.
  • Vivian is a member of the Lansing Business Women’s Association, an organization that brings together business women.
    • She provides them with professional development opportunities to enrich themselves and others through leadership, education and networking.

“I love helping people that need help.”

 

 

Black Panther Premiere: Community Bonding and Celebration with @ThorntonTwp

Black Panther Premiere at Cinema 8

Published First: Thornton Township

I had the pleasure of connecting with Thornton Township to witness the debut of Black Panther with the community, Feb. 16 at Cinema 8 in Lansing. Royal purple carpets, wristbands, goodie bags with Black History Flashcards, including free snacks and beverages were gifted to the community members for their support in making the day great. The movie theater was filled with love from the elders, generation X, baby boomers, and the millennials who all seemed to take away the great message the movie had to offer which was “We are stronger united than we are divided”. Can you think of any significant way to spend black history month?

There were many other messages that were encoded but the message mentioned above was commonly received by the guest. I cried many times during the movie: tears of joy, tears of realization, tears of sadness, and tears of anger. Black Panther reminded me of my constant duty to the community, and Dr. Jamal Turner, the keynote speaker in theater one, spoke to us about his experience as a real life Black Panther.

Thornton Township was thanked by many guests for doing such a wonderful thing for the community because they provided an opportunity, “To those who probably couldn’t afford movie tickets” as said by Jouhan Sawe, a Thornton Township community member and employee.

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Jeanette Quinn and Bessie Watkins, constituents of Thornton Township 

Another guest, Jeanette Quin said “Everything was perfect. The movie, how the event was put together, and how smooth it flowed. We were right on time and I thank them for hosting the event.” It’s more than safe to say that the community is looking forward to more remarkable things happening in Thornton Township. I know I had a marvelous time dressed in full regalia, bonding with the people, and being of service to the community. Can’t wait to see what they have in store for the rest of the month, and I hope to see you at the next outing or social.

Check out my Hood Movie Review of Black Panther! 

 

@DrUmarJohnson @The_HWCC #Umoja #Unity #UrbanPress #Recap #BKgetsherway

Dr. Umar Johnson at The Harold Washington Cultural Center for the First Day of Kwanza; and a Late Dinner at Yassa African Food

The first day of Kwanza was beautiful. If you’re not familiar with Kwanza don’t trip. Kwanza is an “African American” seven-day cultural experience recognized each year from December 26-January 1. The seven-day principles are Umoja (Unity), Kujichagulia (Self-Determination), Ujima (Collective Work and Responsibility), Ujamaa (Co-operative Economics), Nia (Purpose), Kummba (Creativity), Imani (Faith).

Umoja describes the First Day of Kwanza in Chicago at the Harold Washington Cultural Center. Dr. Umar Johnson, a Doctor of Clinical Psychology and Certified School Psychologist, was a Keynote Speaker along with a line of talented Artists. Johnson is facing a legal challenge with the Commonwealth State of Pennsylvania, Bureua of Professional and Occupational Affairs aka the State Board of Psychology.

Set aside all of that, he came through the land and dropped Jewels that are worthy of sharing with Urban (Black) Parents. As a Mentor, I consider this information to be a necessary conversation especially for young parents. Most parents aren’t educated on the business of “Education”, and it’s a major responsibility that they are educated.

  1. Never go to a school meeting by yourself
  2. Do not get your child evaluated if they are in 3
  3. Don’t communicate over the phone, always do it in writing via emails or written documents.
  4. Stop telling the school your business. (*inform your children of this too)
  5. Know that you have a right to a second opinion, especially if they’re claiming your child has special education needs. Legally the school will pay for the qualified specialist of your choice to evaluate your child for a second opinion.

Do your research and understand the policies that govern education. Don’t just leave it at that either, as a parent know what education is, to be able to determine what kind of education your child should receive. What a wonderful way to spend Umoja! It was a pleasure to learn better methods and theories to aid in helping us have a better understanding of developing our children.

Dr. Johnson is in the works of deciding where he will plant his first school. He’s deciding between Detroit, Atlanta, and Chicago. Allegedly, He’s had some conflicts along the way because he hasn’t gotten any returned phone calls from real estate interest. He’s had other partners and associates call to inquiry about the real estate. We’ll be contacting Dr. Umar Johnson to obtain more information about his plans with FDMG. We’ll keep you updated.

After our long day of unity he treated his staff and invited guest to dinner. If you haven’t ate at Yassa African Food , then set your date soon. We had a blast as a community, and we were treated like family. I can’t wait to see what the universe does next in Dr. Johnson’s journey.

Check out the gallery of press images from the event. Photo credits to Shabria Davidson of Sky Team Media, our Photojournalist of the evening. If you use images, I ask that you notify me and give credit to the creatives who produced the content. When contact is made you will be given all social media and credential information to use for multiple platforms. Respect our craft and art, these are non negotiable terms. Conditions made to subject vary, mass media laws apply.

Urban Culture and Affairs: Let’s Set a New Direction of Flow

What is Flow and Contra-Flow? 

Author: Briyana Kelly

Date: Sunday, January 21, 2018 11:58:16 PM CST

Subject: What is flow and contra-flow? What is meant by ethno-mediascape?

Flow is how communication and media networks attempt to hold their audience from one program to another; or even from a segment in the program to the next segment. In summary, how the constituent consumes media across networks or from programs. Contra-flow is the movement of culture brought to another place through an migrant (diaspora)  which moves the flow of media in the opposite direction of just flowing from the west to the rest of the population, making it a two way movement. Ethno-mediascape is a type of global cultural flow, mediascape is communciations media as a whole and ethno is simply ethnics. In summary, ethno-mediascape is ethnic communications media as a whole.

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Author: Briyana Kelly

Date: Monday, January 22, 2018 12:05:28 AM CST

Subject: How does flow and contra-flow contribute to the emerging ethno-mediascape?

Flow and contra-flow contributes to the emerging ethno-mediascape by creating diversity in the market from ethnic cultural groups directly, other than media and communication that is disseminated by outside sources. It allows other cultures to build their own communications commodities that reflect their culture and gives them the power to tell their own story including inform their fellow members who may have relocated nationally. It gives constituents a direct connection which is a major key in relations to how flow and contra-flow contributes to ethno-mediascape. This is also great because it’s great for representational value dealing with other ethic cultural groups.

 Why am I igniting this conversation? 

Well as you know, I’m building my credibility as a Social Scientist and Engineer, so it’s only right that I share my research. I’m currently studying Global Media and Informational Flow with my Professor, Dr. Deborah James, at Governors State University.

My interest in Media Studies is from never seeing an accurate portrayal of my identity and culture. I want to help move Urban Culture forward scientifically and dis-spell all of the misconceptions of who I am in the world. As an Urban Citizen I didn’t get into institutional studies to be socially reformed, I admitted myself to socially reform those who share their perspective of the African Diaspora globally based on their assumptions of who we are.  I think we need to focus on glocal conversations in the dominant aka global media flow.

 Source:

Thussu,Daya Kishan. (2007)Media on the Move: Global flow and contra-flow.New York, NY. Routledge.